The Breakup That Built Me and the Birth of Awareness
The breakup that built me…
is the same relationship that almost ended me.
But before we open that box…
I need you to understand something…
This is not a post about love or heartbreak.
It’s for the new-age conscious traders…
the ones ready to see beyond entries and exits.
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Why Awareness Matters
Some would argue:
“Why would I want to awaken if all I want is money?”
If that’s you right now, that’s a solid question.
And if more come up, drop them in the comments.
Anyway…
Here’s the simplest answer:
Making money is not enough to guarantee long-term financial freedom.
That word is thrown around loosely in this industry.
There are silent forces at play.
And if you’re not consciously awake,
you miss the small signals…
signals that could’ve saved your time,
protected your finances,
and guided you towards better decisions.
Your lack of awareness leaves you exposed.
Wide open.
You’ve heard the stories:
Millionaires losing millions to crypto scams.
Athletes and actors going from hundreds of millions
to being dead broke.
Asking fans for money just to buy bread.
How many lottery winners blew everything?
It’s not because they’re stupid.
It’s because money amplifies your emotions.
And a trader who isn’t grounded
gets controlled by those emotions
until he becomes the very thing he feared.
He lives for the moment:
clubs, bottles, new friends, new girls,
big dinners, big holidays, big ego…
All for validation.
Until one day he wakes up
and realises the friends, the lifestyle: all gone.
The cars? Gone.
The house? Gone.
The money? Gone.
And SARS wants millions.
That’s not bad luck.
That’s the tax of unawareness.
The Girl Who Broke Me: The Breakup That Built Me
The Emotional Drawdown I Needed
There she was.
First day I saw her, my eyes lit up…
same moment the gents in the transport reacted.
They were loud:
Bro 1: “Who is that, bro??”
Bro 2: “I don’t really know and you…?”
Bro 3: “Damn! She fine!!!”
While they acted wild, I didn’t move.
I watched her… not just her beauty, but her energy.
She had depth.
Before I made a move,
I already knew how the day would play out.
Three weeks later, I had enough data:
Grade 11.
Same town.
2–3 subjects together.
Smart. Sharp.
Two months in, we became close.
Real friends.
My homie.
Until everything shifted.
Heritage Day.
She wore her traditional attire: looked incredible.
School closed early.
She waited for transport.
I stuck around too… not for her,
but to smoke a joint with the bros far from teachers.
Later, I walked to the bus.
Found her at the back.
I lay on her lap while she played with my dreadlocks.
Slow. Gentle.
We looked at each other…
that silence where the world fades.
Then the moment folded…
and we kissed.
After The Honeymoon Stage
When Alignment Starts to Break
Being with her felt like stepping into the unknown.
Dating one of the prettiest girls in school didn’t move me…
what moved me was her presence.
But something felt different.
One moment of awareness was enough.
She exposed a truth buried inside me:
I’m a one-person type of man.
Loyalty comes naturally.
The beginning was sweet.
Honeymoon sweet.
Where you convince yourself, “This is the one.”
But slowly… tiny cracks formed.
The kind you only see when your mind wakes up.
Her energy shifted.
Bit by bit.
And here’s the part no one talks about:
The relationship almost destroyed me.
Not because she was toxic…
but because I lost myself piece by piece.
I became empty.
Drowning in distractions, avoiding the truth.
And here’s the warning conscious traders must hear:
If you’re building your empire,
growing into your higher self,
protecting your momentum…
Be careful who you attach yourself to.
When energies don’t match,
when one person is growing and the other drifting…
It drains you.
Slows you down.
Lowers your inner dragon.
And you don’t see it happening
until you’re deep in the rabbit hole,
wondering why your hunger vanished.
Sometimes the person next to you
is the reason you stopped moving forward.
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Transition From the Break: The Breakup That Built Me
The Mind Behind the Market
In trading, just like in relationships,
destruction never arrives in one big candle.
It starts small.
Tiny cracks.
Silent moves you ignore because you’re emotional.
Just like her energy changed slowly…
the market shifts slowly before it reverses.
Most traders blow accounts because they fall in love with a setup.
They marry a bias.
Ignore the warnings.
I learned early…
ignoring small signals costs you later.
In relationships or on the chart.
Awareness saved me in the markets…
but first it destroyed me in love.
From the Ashes: Sizz Arrived
The Energy That Met My Growth
Before meeting Sizz,
my awareness of myself was at its peak.
Walking through the darkness alone sharpened me.
The partying, the late nights,
the urge to impress,
the pressure to look fresh…
all of that died.
What remained was discipline.
A hunger to raise funds, learn,
and one day provide for the family I’ll build.
My inner dragon woke up.
I spent two years without a relationship:
not because I was broken,
but because I was reborn.
My ex no longer lived rent-free in my mind.
I didn’t numb the hurt… I endured it.
And because I endured it,
it lost its power.
The only thing on my mind
was feeding my momentum
as I strove to conquer consistency in my trading.
While my inner dragon calmly whispered:
“Try me.”
How I Met Sizz: The Breakup That Built Me
Remember earlier when I said the girl who broke me revealed a truth inside me?
That truth woke up again.
I was chilling by my Ps room with my cousin, Grade.
He shows me a picture of twins.
“You know these girls? They say they live here in town.”
I didn’t.
But something inside me shifted.
That subconscious whisper:
“Ohh boy… here we go again.”
This time, I wasn’t looking for a relationship.
I was building myself.
So instead of chasing girls,
I aligned with smart people…
people with direction.
I poked Sizz.
Asked if she knew me.
She said no.
We started talking.
And I didn’t entertain small talk.
I asked:
“What are your five-year plans?”
Her answer would determine everything.
To my surprise…
she wasn’t intimidated.
She didn’t shut down.
She responded with depth.
That separated her instantly.
She wasn’t like the girls
who scraped through matric with nothing but vibes.
Nah… Sizz moved with purpose.
Over time, we grew close.
Her energy didn’t drain mine…
it complemented my dragon.
She didn’t ask me to choose between her and work.
She had her own mission.
That dynamic…
was power.
Perfect alignment for a conscious trader.
Where she stands today?
That’s a story for another piece.
Conclusion: The Breakup That Built Me
Before we move to our next piece,
“The Collapse Before The Rise”,
we must remember…
The market moves in cycles:
impulse, correction, continuation.
People move the same.
Meeting Sizz wasn’t luck.
It was the continuation phase in my personal uptrend.
Not a FOMO entry.
Not revenge trading.
Not a distraction candle.
I didn’t force the setup.
It aligned.
Just like a clean structure break,
her arrival wasn’t noise…
it was confirmation.
The lesson is simple:
When you’re in an uptrend in life,
don’t attach yourself to anything
that drags you into consolidation.
Match energy
the way you match trend direction.
Protect your momentum.
Move with purpose.
Trade with momentum, not against it.
And remember:
Awareness always leads the way.
Next in the Rebirth Series:
The Collapse Before The Rise
https://fundsandgalore.com/the-collapse-before-the-rise-surviving-chaos/